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The Search for Security and Significance: The Journey Home…

The perpetual search that we are on is that of security and significance. It is the sense that we have roots and a purpose. It’s a place we long for where we belong. Many of us do not have a physical place that we can drive to that was our childhood home. Yet, we feel empty and desirous to have that secure feeling. In actuality, what we are seeking is a sense of belonging; a place where we fit.

In our mobile societies in America, we often relocate to new jobs, houses, cities, etc. We go home to visit parents and / or family once or maybe twice each year. In that few days or weeks, we try to fuel our tanks with something that will give us hope, strength, healing, encouragement, or maybe just a sense of normal. Sometimes the journey is helpful. Sometimes it opens up an abundance of questions that we may find are difficult to solve or resolve. Sometimes we make the trip with dread, simply feeling obligated to see the family. All in all, the journey is one we need to take for a variety of reasons.

For healing and strength, and to be what we can be in this life, we need to look back on the reality of what our childhood was with our adult eyes. We may need to ask some questions. We may need to seek some answers, or offer or ask for forgiveness or perhaps just reach a place where we don’t blame the generation before us for everything that is wrong in our lives.

Delaying the journey may keep us suspended in a state of feeling stuck and unable to move on or forward with life. This can manifest in many different ways: an overwhelming sense of discontentment, destructive relationships, overwork, alcohol or drug abuse, anxiety, overspending, anger, control and a repeated feeling of panic every time you’re faced with a similar situation that causes us to be fearful.

The reality is that in life we each have to make the “Prodigal” journey where we leave the nest and the comfort zone of what ever our childhood reality was and go out to make our mark on the world and meet our appointments with life. Our independence emerges in our teens as we try to discover just who we are and why we are here. This phase continues in our lives until we have worked through to establishing an intimate relationship and an individual faith in God.

Before we can master this phase, we must learn that the difficult things in our lives are there for a reason. They are for our growth, maturity and discovery of the path that leads us to the understanding of God’s great love for us.  The void we feel in our lives is one that can only be filled by a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, His Son. Nothing else will bring mental stability and well-being, or a sense of security and significance.

Applying this knowledge with the habit of connecting with others of like-minded faith, allows us to come to depend that God is always for us and for what is best for us and that He is never going to leave us. It is both thrilling and liberating to know that we will always be in His care and He will always work all the drama in our lives together in a tapestry that leads to the good that only He can provide. We trade our sorrow, emptiness, pain, and broken dreams, and He gives us perfect love, peace and a security that surpasses all understanding.

This journey to our sense of belonging (our true home) may last for weeks, months, years or decades. It depends solely on our coming to terms with the fact that we are: a)not God; b) not in control; and c)not left to fend for ourselves in a life with no purpose.

Once these facts are firmly established in our minds, we can begin the part of the journey that leads us to maturity, commitment, purpose and fulfillment.

The path is open to us all ~ the beginning of wisdom is a surrendering of all we ever thought we would or could be to a God who fashions us into all we could ever hope to be! Make your reservation to meet with Him soon and find the path that will bring you home …

Sheri Geyer is a Professional Life & Financial Coach, Mentor, Writer, Wife & Mom

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Flashback Number 14

Flashback Number 14


Rev 2: 17 He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches; To him that overcometh will I give to eat of the hidden manna, and will give him a white stone, and in the stone a new name written, which no man knoweth saving he that receiveth it.

I have not given much thought to my childhood schooldays. It was a painful time. It was as “the best of times, it was the worst of times”, a wise man wrote. Having been out of grade school for many years I really did not have to think of it. Helping my husband with his teenaged daughter has taken me back. I have flashbacks while talking to my stepdaughter. On this particular day, she was explaining the benefits of finally being a part of the “in” crowd to me and how this was going to help her “rep” going into high school next year. When I asked some penetrating questions about her status I was alarmed to find out this “in” crowd was the very popular snotty, well-dressed, mean, boyfriend switching girls and she was very proud they called her one of them. I asked how her old friend felt about it since she was not chosen she mentioned that they do not speak.

She talked about her efforts to reconcile with her friend and  happy that for a time, she belonged to two groups. But, at some point her friend did not get along with some of the girls in the new “in” crowd so she was out of their crowd. We talked a bit more about the pain caused by rejection in cliques and how this “in’ crowd was affecting her character. She will face a defining moment soon that will have an impact I told her. I expressed hope that she will emerge from this impending crossroad having made the right decision that honored God and who she really was as He made her. I told her how pretty and bright, friendly, and well-meaning I thought she was. That is who God says she is.

I was fearful that as usual, she was writing me off and had turned me off in her head.  I could tell she had done this because of the very polite way she appears to listen-this I believe is a family trait as her father pretends to listen to me in this way quite a bit. There is a suspicion that I have long-held that he can sleep with his eyes wide open without being detected-he may have slept through many major conversations we have had and now his daughter was looking at me much in the same way. Well, at least she was not sleep and I was assured of this because there was no snoring or uncontrolled drooling.

But I was taken aback. The flashback seemed to start precisely at the moment when I began to talk to her in a very real way about her character, the way she treated people, her reputation and on. Her staunch defense of the mean girls frightened me, nauseated me, and made me angry. Here comes that metallic taste I get in my mouth when I am afraid and the fear is just given way to very deep, burning anger. This anger was very deep, very old, and way too big for this moment. Something was about to happen that was going to make me more like what Jesus is writing on that stone.

Sure I was delivered, Jesus did it and by His name by golly I was walking in it!  That was until He decided to use this moment as a target of opportunity. God was showing me something He was about to do for me, to me, and through me. I started to feel the anger rise above the other emotions-love for this child, fear, jealousy, and envy.  Help me Jesus, what a mess I must be to be jealous of a 14-year-old “it” girl!

This was the Holy Spirit’s signal to me that while the enemy was trying to get me off point, He was using this opportunity to deal with something that was buried deep. Perhaps He was “once and for all” laying the axe to the root cause of the rejection and feelings of inferiority that were vulnerable areas. It seemed to have its tentacles in every aspect of my personality that tends to show up when I am being challenged in some way. I was not part of the “in” crowd in grade school or high school or even college now that I think of it. I was the one never chosen, not as natty a dresser, not pretty at all, invisible, and rejected by most standards that matter to teens. The “in” crowd always got the best of everything, clothes, boys, and looks, money, etc. I felt intimidated by their status. I felt ugly, not as good as, dumb-just horrible and now in this car, I am talking to the very same kind of girl.

Being in their presence made me hate myself when I was her age.  I saw that same look of contempt in my stepdaughter’s eyes. She was long past bored now, this flashback has sent me back a long, long time. I was feeling 14 again and probably should have added another “long”, to the flashback I was having. I remember, reluctantly, that I did not even feel important enough to be looked upon with disgust. Sherman and Mr. Peabody could not have taken me this far in the Way Back Machine. Holy Spirit was taking me into some deep, dark place buried in my heart. There were worse things I found out there. The thing that was worse than being looked at with contempt and disgust was not being looked at, at all.

This girl was flat-out ignoring me now as I was trying to reach her.  What could have been a bitter cruel and ironic moment that would ordinarily cause me to retreat was something my Heavenly Father decided to use to deliver me. This was a transformational moment and I knew it. I knew because He and I have had them before.  I want so desperately to be like Him, to be what He has designed! He took me there and I went there with Him, willingly. Okay, I trust You, God. Holy Spirit helped me to see that if I rode this out with Him, He promised that He would prune out another thing in me that was not like Him. I said to Him, gladly, Sir, I yield this to Your loving hands. I want more of You. I knew He would not leave me in this place. He had every right to take me there, I trusted what He was about to do.

The Hand of God so expertly, and with the precision only He can master, can do the delicate surgery required here. His Presence served as the anesthetic needed to tolerate the procedure. Some operations must be done while you are awake, others you must be asleep because there is so much repair work that needs to be done.  Because we had been this way before, He was letting me stay awake for this one testing my responses as He worked in me. The beauty of this suffering I would not trade for anything. I got more of Him as I yielded, surrendered to His ongoing process in me.

What was happening in that transformational moment was for the both of us, my stepdaughter and I. We were both being shaped more into the image He has of us. I wanted it badly enough for the both of us until she gets the mind of Christ for herself. Holy Spirit, I sighed inward, please do something with my face so that she knows I am still engaged, still listening to her. So there I sat as she continued to rationalize, I continued to listen. How was I going to teach her to recognize these God ordained moments? How would I explain that He uses heart breaking moments in our lives to heal us. She was going to need to know about these moments so that she would know to sit-to sit still as He writes her name on that stone.

I am grateful as I look back on that moment. I am reminded as He was pouring His Word into me that His word to her, the Word that was being poured into her, would not return void but it will accomplish what He had sent it to do in her life and in my life.  God’s goodness and love shows up in so many unexpected places. He showed up to rescue both of His girls one Friday evening on the way to Virginia Beach.

phyllis is the wife of a pastor, stepmother, minister, and life coach. She has a heart to help those in transition, to triumph and finish well.

Don’t Miss God …

Ya know how some people sometimes write their f/b entries in ‘riddle form’??? That kinda bugs me. I suppose I’m always looking for the backstory behind their choppy statement. Well, at the risk of doing that, I just have to share that WE SERVE AN AMAZING GOD!!! He is!!! We’ve been studying His Omniscience the past few weeks around here! Not an easy task! I mean, how in the world do you really catch that, let alone teach that!
Well, I can tell you, He showed up! (I mean He was always there to begin with, isn’t that the very definition of Omniscience?). I just wanted to remind YOU, encourage YOU, in case you’ve never encountered Him, in case you’ve forgotten Him, in case it’s just slipped your mind, even if only for today, that we serve a MIGHTY, God!!! One who is SO big that He, creator of all, is the God of this Universe, the God of this earth, and, not to worry,
He’s the God of this country, ALL THAT and ….yet SO VERY PERSONAL, He clearly reached down and touched the finer details of life in such a beautiful way for us today. The Creator of the universe still hears the whisper,of his children, the heart’s cry of one who has deep insight and a deep desire for Him. I saw that happen today before my very eyes. I must withhold the back story here as it’s not mine to tell. But just know that He is there,
HE IS RIGHT THERE WITH YOU. He’s a big enough God to see you through and yet a personal enough God to CARRY YOUR LOAD if you just reach for Him. He’s a perfect gentleman, He won’t snatch it from you but He will gladly bear it for you. He created it and He’ll walk you through it. Whatever YOUR ‘it’ is in your life, in your heart, He’s right there with you. Don’t miss Him..

Lisa Stephens is a Wife of 27 years, mom of 3, Writer from the Heart :)

The ‘Joy’ of Cleansing Tears

As I’ve immersed myself in some intense reading materials lately, I came across an obvious yet provocative sentiment examining many kinds of tears. There are as many ‘types’ of tears as their are emotions.Okay, we know that. But think about it for a moment. We express tears of joy when touched deeply, tears of sadness come quickly with loss, tears often accompany fear, tears are shed with deep remorse, angry tears come with frustration sometimes.

My personal favorite are those times that bring about CLEANSING tears! That’s the type I read about today. Tears are many times a by product of a deep, cleansing of our souls! I guess sort of like a rain shower… tears can refresh and can energize us to move ahead, sort of like a new beginning. Just kind of feels good.

So what’s the point? I suppose it’s allow yourself to go have a good cry…it does a heart good!!! Then smiles have room to grow!

Lisa Stephens is a Wife of 27 years, mom of 3, Writer from the Heart 🙂

The “Evolution of Me” Over 70 Years

When new parents first hold their baby, they fall in love.  They stare in amazement of their perfect little bundle of joy.  Not because the baby has done anything special.  Not because the baby is the smartest, cutest, best dressed or most successful.  Just because.

For doing nothing at all, a new baby is embraced as a precious, wonderful expression of All-That-Is.  People naturally treasure these little ones, eager to admire and welcome them into the world.  But why?

The baby is completely helpless.  He  can’t do anything for himself or anyone else.  He’s not contributing anything to society.  He is needy and (only in the most literal sense of the word) useless.  Still, we see the immense value in this life.

And so it was when I was born the fifth child of my parents on November 25, 1941, one week before Pearl Harbor, Hawaii, was bombed by the Japanese which brought the United States into  World War II.

Unfortunately, after birth and somewhere along the way, we lose sight of who we are.  We begin to define ourselves, and each other, based on factors that have nothing to do with the core of our being.  Do any of the following sound familiar?

  • My hair is too frizzy.
  • I’m too fat.
  • I’m too skinny.
  • I have health problems.
  • Her clothes are ugly.
  • His nose is too big.
  • She’s not smart enough.
  • He’s mediocre.
  • They live in a trailer park.

There’s no need to feel guilty or ashamed of this learned behavior.  We’ve all been there.  We sometimes get so stuck on the physical aspects of our lives that we forget how wonderful we truly are.

We must wake up and value ourselves!  Wake up and realize that each and every one of us is an extension of a beautiful, magnificent, amazing God!  We are more significant to this Universe than any physical attribute can portray.

If you look in the mirror and you don’t see someone worthy of love, look again.  Remind yourself that the precious Soul that was within you as an infant is still there.  Nothing that happens (or doesn’t happen) in the physical determines your value.  You are not your nose size, body shape, job title, or bank account.  You don’t have to be the smartest, richest, or prettiest to be worthy of love.  Love yourself now!  You don’t need to be the most famous or most stylishly dressed in order to have value.  Value yourself now!

You were created by God in His image; therefore, you were born with great value.  God Himself surely adores you!  At no point should you stop being aware of your “Sole” Self—the larger part of you, which outlives every superficial factor hat distracts from the truth!  So, why not look past your physical imperfections and the goals you have not accomplished, and see yourself as that little baby that God created and loves unconditionally?  Helpless yet precious.  Needy yet valuable.  Powerless yet amazing.  Think about how the “little you” may have marveled at your own toes, fingers, mouth, and ears—experiencing life from a place of joy and wonder despite having only your presence to offer the world!  Years later, the person staring back at you in the mirror is still deserving of your love.  Go ahead and stand in awe of your presence.  Embrace yourself with the deepest love and appreciation.  Value yourself just because you are you, the exact same you that God created, and upon whom He Himself placed His Own Stamp of Approval!

Now share that warmth and love with everyone around you.  Instead of judging people for what they’ve done or how they look, see that which is like God within them.

Love yourself; value yourself; and see yourself in everyone else!

The truths I have just described took me nearly a lifetime to learn to accept.  Don’t you be that stupid!  I went to college at night while working days for over 15 years to get Undergraduate and Bachelor’s degrees to prove to myself that I was as smart as my bosses and college-graduated friends were!  I changed careers seven times during my lifetime because I did not feel intellectually challenged after a few years in each career!  I bought three Vacation Timeshares that I couldn’t afford to prove to myself that I could enjoy in the luxury that I thought  “the Rich” did! For many years I drove a Cadillac or a Lincoln because I wanted to “look” and “feel” successful!  I glorified in whom I believed I could be each day, condemned who I was each yesterday, and dreamed of who I could be each tomorrow!  But I found no peace, no joy, and no happiness in any of my concocted self-made “selves.”

Eventually God enlightened me by his revelations that “Life in Jesus Christ” is eternal when we choose to look at ourselves, others, and the world through God’s eyes with respect to His Creations of Life in His Own Image!  At last, I learned that my “false devil’s pride” existed only in my mind of misconceptions; that is, it didn’t exist at all!iHi

My idea that I might become something of more importance had come from an insane notion that I had created,in my mind that eventually caused me to act insanely.  A belief that created in me a world of judgment and condemnation.  Others had judged me; and from their observations and behaviors, I had judged and condemned myself!

Every prayer, every statement, every feeling we have – is creative!  We are created to create – not to react.  Creation is the highest form of Divinity, and is our birthright, our inheritance from God!  Truth is, we are creating all the time.  The central question in our lives is whether we are doing this consciously or unconsciously.  A hunch, or goose bumps on our arms, is God’s Holy Spirit prompting us, and should not be ignored.  Listen to your hunches; pay attention to your intuition; do not dismiss your random thoughts, inspirations or ideas.  God’s Holy Spirit  speaks in snippets, not in speeches.

Miracles seldom occur in the lives of those who do not consider them possible!  Whenever they do occur, they go unnoticed!

Go ahead and do what you really love to do!  Do nothing else!  You have so little time.  How can you think of wasting a moment doing something for a living you don’t like to do?  What kind of living is that?  That is not a living; that is a dying!

Your mind right now may be filled with old thoughts.  Not only old thoughts, but mostly someone else’s old thoughts.  It’s important now!  It’s time now to change your mind about some things.  This is what evolution is all about.

Following are some Inspirational Self-Improvement Quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer, PhD, that I followed to help me look at myself; to learn to understand and know myself; and finally to train myself to desire changes in myself.  I will be forever indebted to Dr. Dyer for helping me to understand and love “myself,” and to find God’s Plan for my Life!  Today I love myself and am thankful that I am who am, one of God’s many beautiful and varied creations!

  • Abundance is not something we acquire.  It is something we tune into … God!
  • When you stop needing more of everything, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life.
  • Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.
  • Conflict cannot survive without your participation.
  • “Deficiency” motivation doesn’t work.  It will lead to a lifelong pursuit of trying to fix me.  Learn to appreciate what you have, and where and who you are.
  • With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what happened as a gift.  Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing.  You get to choose.
  • You cannot solve a problem with the mind that created it.  First you must change the mind.
  • Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.
  • Everything you are against weakens you.  Everything you are empowers you.
  • Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose.  Anything less is a form of slavery.
  • If you are living out of a sense of obligation, you are a slave.
  • If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
  • Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.
  • You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.
  • Only the insecure strive for security.
  • Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.
  • Successful people make money.  It’s not that people who make money become successful, but that successful people attract money.  They bring success to what they do.
  • The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.
  • What we think determines what happens to us; so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.
  • Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy; but this is not accurate.  You make yourself unhappy.
  • Heaven is a state of mind, not a location (presently).  Someday it will be our home forever!
  • The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.
  • There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there’s only scarcity of resolve to make it happen.
  • What comes out of you when you are squeezed is what is inside of you.
  • When you judge another, you do not define them; you define yourself.
  • When I chased after money, I never had enough.  When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous.
  • You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.
  • You’ll see it when you believe it!
  • A mind at peace, a mind centered on good and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the Universe.
  • There is no way to happiness.  Happiness is the way.
  • Heaven on Earth is a choice you must make, not a place we must find.
  • I am realistic … I expect miracles!
  • Happiness is something more than a reflection of your state of mind.
  • Did you ever notice how difficult it is to argue with someone who is not obsessed with being right?
  • Be miserable … or motivate yourself.  Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.
  • Circumstances do not make a man; they reveal him.
  • If you’re always in a hurry; always trying to get ahead of the other guy; or if someone else’s performance is what motivates you; then that person is in control of you.
  • Go for it now.  The future is promised to no one.
  • You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being – not because anybody said so; not because you’re successful; not because you make a lot of money – but because you decide to believe it; and for no other reason!

Let’s return to our baby-like “innocence” of living our lives by accepting without judging ourselves or others!  Let’s be happy; let’s make that our choice.  It’s simple.  It’s easy.  It’s comfortable.  It’s worthwhile.  It’s amazing!

Remember:  We don’t have to become like God.”  We ARE God-like!  We were created in His Image (like Him) by Him!

Proverbs 3:  5, 6:  “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.

 Gloria Carter is a wife, mother, grandmother, Red-Hatter, and all-around enjoy-er of the life God has abundantly blessed her with.

Focus: Stop Drifting

Jerry and Sandy were driving to church one Sunday evening.  Sandy said, “I miss you, Jerry.”  “Why?  I’m right here,” was Jerry’s answer.  “I know,” Sandy said, “but we’ve been married for seven years, Jerry.  When we were first married, you used to sit close to me, hold my hand, whisper sweet compliments in my ear, and kiss me on my cheek.  We were so much in love back then.  What happened to us?”

“You know I love you, Sandy,” was Jerry’s answer.  “I know,” Sandy quickly replied.  “But it just doesn’t feel like we’re in love the way we used to be.  And that concerns me.  I want you to show me how much you love me … like you did when we were engaged and during our first few years of marriage.  I miss your constant touch.  I miss your snuggling with me.  I miss the feelings we used to have for each other.  I miss our long talks.  Our love is different now; it’s just not the same as it used to be.  I can tell we don’t love each other as much as we once did!  Look at us!  I’m sitting on one side of the car seat, and you’re sitting on the other end … way over there!  We don’t even ‘look like’ we love each other.  If someone we know were to drive by us right now, they’d know we look like we don’t love each other anymore.”

Jerry:  “I didn’t marry you to ‘look like’ we’re in love, Sandy.  We are in love.  Who’s questioning whether or not we love each other?”  “Nobody,” was Sandy’s answer.  “I just wish we could get back the closeness we once had.  That magnetic love that always drew us close to each other is just not there anymore.  I love you, but it’s just not the same as it used to be, Jerry.”

Jerry answered:  “Well, Sandy, I’m still sitting right here where I always sat while we dated and after we were first married.  I’m sitting right here at the steering wheel!”  (GUESS WHO MOVED!)

Hebrews 2: 1-3 states that we should pay careful attention to things that we have heard (and know is right); because if we don’t, we will drift away from them.  For if The Word is true, then disobedience is punished.  How can we escape (punishment) if we neglect such a great salvation?


Whenever a couple focuses on the important aspects of their marriage, they grow deeper and more compassionately in love.  To stay focused, the bride and groom must  stay friends and continue having loving hearts toward each other by  demonstrating passion; support; thoughtfulness; respect; generosity; kindness; trust; integrity; shared values; and good listening skills.  Being focused includes NOT being overly critical; jealous; unforgiving; selfish; difficult; unaccepting; threatening; defensive; angry; discouraging; or irritating.

Likewise, when a Christian accepts Jesus as personal Savior, one is highly focused on God’s Love, Forgiveness, Acceptance, and Faithfulness.  He/she buys a Bible and reads it daily; goes to church every time the doors are opened; attends Sunday School or Small Group Meetings weekly; and tells every friend how happy, joyful, and thankful.  He feels that the world seems like a perfect place to be.  After a time, the Christian’s joy and thankfulness diminishes somewhat as the activities of life move on.  (GUESS WHO MOVED!  NOT GOD!)

In both scenarios of the “married couple” and the “new Christian,” all is well so long as they stay focused on what they are doing and why.  But after a while, their lives begin to drift away from their original focus.  What causes the drift is “doing nothing.”  What happens naturally when they do nothing as their focus shifts to less important issues and activities is that they grow further and further away from their “first loves.”  The distance between the two partners grows farther and farther apart over time.  The only way either situation can be returned to its original state is by refocusing and returning to the original love partnership.

In Revelations 2:4, we are told that … we have left your first love and that we must remember from where we have fallen, repent, and return to what worked well for us in the beginning.

When we make the choice to return to our original focus, we can reconnect to our first love in both cases.  We can then regain the enjoyment of our original love and feelings of being loved.  But we must work for this by returning to whatever worked well with the partner originally.  In the case of a married couple, both partners must be willing to reconnect by focusing on each other and the desired relationship.  That usually takes prayer, planning, and hard work.  It’s worth it!  In the second scenario, we know that God is always ready and waiting to reconnect to His prodigal child!

Lesson:  Stay focused to prevent drift!  If drift begins to occur, refocus!

Gloria Carter is a wife, mother, grandmother, Red-Hatter, and all-around enjoy-er of the life God has abundantly blessed her with.

Water Helps Dissolves Fat (Within Our Bodies)

As a longtime dieter, I have recently found the real key to weight control and healthy living.  This special ingredient is a weight-loss supplement that most physicians and dieticians say little about:  “water.”  The reason could be that:  “water is free and rarely renders profits.” 


Years of research have revealed that water helps one to look better, feel better, and be healthier.  Here’s what water does:


  • Water boosts metabolism!  Drinking ice water requires your body to heat it up to your body temperature.  Our metabolism  works 25% harder for 60 minutes, German researchers say.
  • Water reduces hunger.  Virginia Tech found that dieters who drink water before a meal will automatically consume 13% fewer calories.  Our stomachs are like balloons that expand and contract based on how full we are.  Water has no calories, yet it helps expand the balloon so we feel fuller faster.
  • Water can reduce 450 calories daily.  When we switch from sugary drinks to water, the average American cuts 450 calories a day; and research reveals that we will fill less hungry.
  • Water makes every organ in our bodies healthier.  Sufficient water helps make each organ function properly and repair itself more efficiently. Insufficient water can cause inefficient organ function, damage, or disease.   


According to Dr. Travis Stork, of the Vanderbilt Medical Center in Nashville, TN, “water dissolves fat.”  (Dr. Stork starred in ABC’s reality dating show, “The Bachelor” in 2006; and he flies to Hollywood to tape “The Doctors,” in which he still stars.)  To speed weight loss and boost overall health, Dr. Stork recommends the following dosage of water:*


                                    Upon rising:                           8 oz. water

                                    Mid-morning:                        8 oz. water

                                    Before lunch:                          8 oz. water

                                    Mid-afternoon:                      8 oz. water

                                    Before dinner:                        8 oz. water

                                    8 p.m.:                                        8 oz. water


*SAFETY NOTE:  Drinking large quantities of water under extreme circumstances can pose health risks.  Avoid water-chugging contests and consult an expert during activities like marathons and boot camps.


We can tweak Dr. Stork’s “prescription” to suit our schedules.  “The key is to go into the day with a solid game plan and stick with it,” Dr. Stork says.  “If you wait until you’re thirsty before you drink, you’re already dehydrated.”  He also adds that we do not have to diet to lose weight while using his “water cure plan.”  “Drinking water alone is enough, “he says, “to help the average overweight person flush away one, two, or even three pounds a week.  And, if you choose to eat healthy, water can make just about any plan work faster and more easily than it otherwise would.”


Water-rich foods (such as fruit, vegetables, yogurt, and soup) are also recommended by Dr. Stork for added effects on weight loss and better health.


MY TESTIMONY:  I have now been using Dr. Stork’s “water prescription” for five weeks.  I feel better and have lost 15 pounds.  I first had to “force” myself to learn to like the taste (or lack of taste) of water.  I now enjoy it with lemon, lime, or orange slices.  I have noticed that when I drink enough water frequently, my stomach seldom “feels hungry.”  I drink my 48-ounces per day around the clock rather just during the daytime.  Therefore, I don’t feel hungry or deprived during the daytime or night.  No reason for binges!  Whenever I eat a meal, I use smaller portions now, because I begin eating with a half-full stomach of water.  Therefore, whenever I eat, I feel full faster.  My cravings for unhealthy foods are minimal now because my stomach is never completely empty.  In between meals, I snack on a small piece of fruit or yogurt.  Eating something about every three hours keeps my metabolism working at a higher pace.  Whenever we fast for a period of time, our metabolisms automatically slow down, thus causing our bodies to hold on to unwanted fat rather than to release it.  I DO NOT deprive my body of ANY types of food since our bodies tell us what and when nutrition is needed; and they usually need some of it all.  We must pay close attention to the nutritional desires of our bodies, however.  I stop eating the minute I feel full.  If I desire to eat again before three hours later, I simply drink a little more of my “water prescription” and wait.   


I have learned that it’s not the complicated or super-duper-expensive supplements that end up making the difference in our weight control.  It’s the simple things we stick with.  Water is a very easy thing we can do to change our body for the better.


And I love “simple and easy.”     Water has become my body’s best friend!


Gloria Carter is a wife, mother, grandmother, Red-Hatter, and all-around enjoy-er of the life God has abundantly blessed her with.